Emotional Sobriety - The Golden Key to Addiction Recovery

What is Emotional Sobriety?

Emotional sobriety is a set of psychological 'self-management' skills that are vital to achieving successful recovery. It is both the 'foundation' and the long term 'task' of recovery. Emotional sobriety includes - but is not limited to - the ability to:

• be aware of and at ease with emotions
  
• feel calm and resilient during times of stress
  
• cope effectively with difficult emotions such as fear, hurt, sadness and frustration
  
• cultivate an optimistic outlook
  
• attain stability of mood
  
• develop enduring and satisfying relationship bonds
  
• achieve overall balance between body, mind, spirit, relationships, etc.
  

What's The Difference Between Emotional Sobriety and Abstinence?

Simply put, abstinence is not recovery. It is merely is the cessation of addictive behavior - the starting point of recovery. Abstinence can last a day, a week or indefinitely. What gives abstinence staying power, and turns it into true recovery, is the development of solid emotional self-management skills.

Now That I've Stopped Using, Why Don't I Have Emotional Sobriety?

People who engage in addictive behaviors are often out of touch with, and therefore at a loss about, how to care for their emotional needs. This may be due to some significant loss, neglect, abuse or trauma earlier in life. When emotions are associated with crisis or pain, people can become 'emotion-phobic', and want to escape or avoid feeling through addictive behavior. They may turn to alcohol, drugs, food, sex or gambling to try and achieve a sense of gratification and calm. The solution becomes the problem however as legitimate psychological needs continue to go unmet, and difficulties escalate into the crisis of addiction.

Why Do I Need Emotional Sobriety?

First and foremost, to avoid relapse

To be able to recognize and 'collaborate' with your emotions as teachers and allies that are there to tell you what your needs are, whether your needs are being met, and what circumstances in your life may require change in order to meet your needs.

To develop the confidence, satisfaction and resilience that comes from dealing with your emotions directly and effectively, rather than self-medicating to avoid pain

To become the person you want to be - so your actions are congruent with your values and aspirations for your life

How Do I Develop Emotional Sobriety?

Emotional sobriety starts with understanding what full recovery means - psychological wellness paired with the end of addictive behaviors. In other words, learning to accept emotions and re-frame pessimistic thinking, without self-medicating with substances or compulsive behaviors, is the foundation of recovery. The next step is to channel this understanding into the commitment necessary to achieve success. People in recovery need to identify their psychological 'learning curves' - areas in their emotional lives that require healing, development and support. This may involve resolving losses, hurts or traumas from the past. It might also mean overcoming anxiety or depression in the present. Emotional recovery is a task that is difficult to achieve in isolation. Addiction counseling can help recovering people conquer psychological obstacles as they gain emotional balance, a positive perspective and healthy coping skills.

Emotional self-management skills are crucial for recovering addicts who want to avoid relapse and achieve stability between moods, thoughts, behaviors and appetites. The good news is that with the right motivation, strategies and counseling support, pain and uncertainty can be replaced by a sense of peace and fulfillment - a powerful foundation for long term recovery.

Glynis Sherwood - Your Addiction Recovery Expert - is a Counselor, Therapist, Consultant and Coach residing in Vancouver, BC. To learn more about how to help your family and yourself become more resilient when overcoming addiction, visit my website http://www.RecoveryCounsellingSolutions.com. While visiting my site I invite you to claim my Free Report: "7 Recovery 'Red Flags' and What To Do About Them".

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